In its
current issue, ‘India Today’ has published a survey report as usual on
male-female sexuality in urban places of India. Some of my friends
messaged me to know my response. Here, it is:
In comparison to Sex Survey by “India Today” in 2003, this
survey results of 2013 seem to indicate Indian women seem to be more in controlled
and expressing their needs in their sex lives.
But are the numbers really accurate?
Let’s look at the results:
This survey seems to be based on totally prejudiced
sexist bias ideas inspired with the sex surveys of some
survey agencies earlier in the West.
Women have barely figured in it, the survey might be done with urban
ladies who performed roles generally reserved for men. In India, still arranged
marriages have a preferred social recognition.
Marital rapes in such arranged marriages are very common phenomena. Ironically, the survey remained silent about
the marital rapes occurred in India. They did not include any question on such
rapes in their survey. The survey did not open how many of its married
respondents are coming with love marriage or arranged marriage.
What is the motto of such surveys? I think, the
underlying motive is only to help the patriarchal conspiracy to subjugate
women. These are all money matters. Not ‘men’ but the ‘economy’ and
‘industries’ are now finding a new market among women to perceive their sexual
desire. The ‘consciousness about women’s
sexual desire’ began when Procter & Gamble tried to win FDA approval for
its female testosterone patch, which the company claimed could help women boost
their sexual desire. Ironically, it has been proven by scientists that no single
measurement of androgen hormones, like testosterone, can predict low desire.
Some women with low testosterone levels did not have low desire, while some
women with normal levels did.
Even the media are used by the commercial houses to
subjugate women to make them pornified so that they could be utilised for
income. Channel 4, one of UK’s popular TV broadcaster, in its programme
“Embarrassing Bodies,” encourages the female viewers to soothe insecurity about
common bodily issues, refers a woman to a cosmetic surgeon to have her
perfectly healthy labia sliced off. Commercial cosmetics business houses try to
propagate that such cosmetic FGM is safe reporting 71 percent of women having
the procedures report an ‘improved sex life’ and 23 percent report they could
reach orgasm more easily after obtaining such operations. But these claims are
possibly advertising/marketing-based and cannot always be substantiated. Thus
BJOG, an international journal of obstetrics and gynecology has denied these
claims in a report published in its 1st issue of Volume 117. Experts (L. M. Liao,
L. Michala, and S.M. Creighton) write:
“This review has identified almost 1,000 published cases
of cosmetic labial surgery. Because the majority of such procedures are
performed in the private sector, here audit and publication are not required,
and because advertisement, especially via the Internet, is widespread, these
figures are likely to represent the tip of the iceberg. No prospective studies
were found. Follow-up was not carried out for most studies and, where
available, it was of short duration with unspecified or suspect methodology.
There was no attempt to compare preoperative morphological measurements with
published criteria to assess the need for intervention. Surgery appeared to
have been offered on demand, justified by verbal reports of physical and
psychological difficulties.”
Sexual problems of women have not received adequate
attention from the researchers. Worldwide, female sexual dysfunction (FSD) is a
highly prevalent problem for 38%-63% of women.
Very few researches have been made clinically on sexual frigidity of
women in India. And yet, according to a recent study by researchers at the Yale
School of Medicine and Albert Einstein College of Medicine, nearly half of all
women who participated in the studies suffer from some sexual problem; many
suffered from more than one. And it has now been proven that orgasm is not
experienced by most women either in the West or in the East. Curiously, very
few activists have come forward to proclaim that right for women. And it
appears most medical researchers and funders of this research are also not in
the mood to spend too much money trying to figure out why some women are
sexually unhappy. But the surveys by India Today shows only 2.3 % of female
respondents admit about their sexual unhappy lives. What a silly nonsense
result!
I believe women are still living in denial of their
sexual desire. Most women seldom discuss sex with their doctors. They even
think not being able to experience orgasm during sexual intimacy is a normal
occurrence. Indian society still has not been removed its taboo on sex and most
of the women are totally molded by
patriarchal conspiracy where male sexuality is termed as ‘active’ while female
sexuality is ‘passive.’ Here, I don’t think the situation in the West differs
much from that of the East. It seems throughout the world, the sexual instinct
of females is routinely suppressed. Those who find so much sexual positivism
among Indian women might have selected a fixed specialized domain and this
domain can’t be termed to represent Indian women any more.
Source: India Today December 2013 Issue.